A carer story – Denise

Last changed: Thursday 26 November, 2020

A carer story – Denise

I was Dad’s main carer until February this year. My dad had a suspected stroke. It was decided by the “powers that be” for Dad to go into 24hr care on the 23rd March this year.

Dad is in a care home and I miss him so much. Six days a week I’d been looking after Dad to the best of my ability even with my own health issues.

Jewellery making

I decided to take up my jewellery making again as something to pass the time. One of Carers’ Resource’s workers, the lovely Melanie, has been so supportive with me through the pandemic. She has me out a lot.

Effects of the pandemic

The pandemic has got me so down. My health has declined due to all my hospital appointments been cancelled.

I was furloughed from work. Then in August my job was terminated and my P45 sent out.

Wellbeing Grant

I was so grateful for my Wellbeing Grant from Carers’ Resource. I used the grant to get my hair done. I am now waiting to be booked for a massage when I feel comfortable to go. I have a great-grandson who has put a smile on my face through this pandemic.

All I would love is for life to be normal again. A lot of people will soon be cut off from the outside world. Which is not good for anyone’s wellbeing.

I loved being a carer

I loved being a carer. You have to have a caring approach. And you also have to love what you’re doing. I really and truly miss looking after dad. I miss seeing him in person. I saw dad a few weeks ago. He didn’t even recognise me as its been months since I last had personal contact with him.

The government didn’t consider families with loved one who have dementia. When they’re cut off from their families they decline quicker.